February 3, 2012
The Importance of Role Models
Every month, Project Safety Net banners are displayed around our community. To see them, drive past the fence at the construction site of the Mitchell Park Library, or the fence at the Mayfield soccer fields, or simply look above Embarcadero at the underpass at Alma. Each rotating banner shares a thought on ways that we can all help our young people cultivate the Developmental Assets needed to be successful in life. Last month's asset was Adult Role Models and the banners read: "Our Youth are Watching. Our Actions are Their Lessons." Last year's Project Cornerstone survey results show us that 51% of 5th graders, 41% of 7th graders and 38% of 9th - 12th graders feel that their parents and other adults in their lives model positive, responsible behavior.
When my children were little, I once heard my older son use a swear word. Surprised, I asked him, "Where did you learn that word?" Without hesitation, he responded, "from you, Dad." Ugh.
On other occasions, my children are impervious to my suggestions. So I feel fortunate that they have multiple role models and mentors. It's amazing how brilliant and insightful my children find other caring adults when they say the same thing I have been preaching for months!
We adults play a primary role in more than the language our children use. Studies continually show that those closest to children shape their politics, their outlook on the world, their tolerance and respect for others, their social-emotional and physical health and their intellectual curiosity. While the nature versus nurture debate rages on, no one doubts the power an adult community plays in shaping the lives of its youth.
Building an environment where every young person feels connected to a caring adult has been a long-standing goal for our schools. Hardly a meeting of school staff, PTAs or the School Board passes without mention of the topic of adult role models. This work helps to define the City's strong efforts on behalf of youth, as well as the services of myriad other community-based organizations.
When my four children ranged in age from newborn to first grade, I remember saying to my mother how hard it was to be a parent. She smiled and said, "It only gets harder." She's right, but when we are collectively at our best, we all share the child-rearing load.
Kevin Skelly, Ph.D.,
Superintendent
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